Things That Get Harder to Swallow as the Years Go By

Remember when time seemed to stretch forever and your potential felt limitless? As we age, the world starts to take on a different shape, and certain realities become increasingly difficult to ignore. Let’s explore some of the bittersweet truths that accompany getting older.

1. Your body isn’t invincible, and hangovers get downright brutal.

Remember when you could bounce back from an all-nighter with nothing but a pizza and a nap? Sadly, those days dwindle as you age. Sore backs become a regular occurrence, mysterious aches and pains pop up, and the aftereffects of overindulging are no longer a laughing matter, but a grueling ordeal.

2. Your parents aren’t superheroes, they’re just flawed humans.

It’s a watershed moment when the people you’ve idealized your whole life start revealing their own imperfections, struggles, and questionable choices from the past. This shift from putting them on a pedestal to seeing them as complex humans with both strengths and weaknesses can be surprisingly bittersweet.

3. Time moves faster every single year.

Remember those summers that seemed to stretch on forever? As adults, weeks, months, and years blur by with alarming speed. The realization that time is both finite and accelerating can be both unsettling and a powerful reminder to savor the moments and live life intentionally.

4. The world doesn’t always reward hard work or fairness.

Growing up, we’re told that if we study diligently, work hard, and play by the rules, we’ll succeed. Unfortunately, adult life reveals the hard truth that talent and effort aren’t always enough. Luck, privilege, and sometimes even plain dishonesty play a role, which forces one to adjust their definition of “success” and expectations about the world.

5. Change is constant, and sometimes those changes feel like loss.

Friends move away, loved ones pass on, your favorite neighborhood spot closes, and your body’s abilities slowly shift, Mayo Clinic notes. As you age, you face a constant stream of changes, big and small. While change is the nature of life, it’s okay to grieve what’s left behind, even while embracing the new.

6. The idealism of youth gradually gives way to a more pragmatic approach.

In our youth, we often feel like we can change the world. As we age, experience tempers those lofty ambitions with a dose of realism. While it’s important to retain some optimism, accepting that not every battle is winnable and focusing on achievable goals saves a lot of frustrated energy as we get older.

7. “What you do” starts to define you more than who you are.

When you meet people as a kid, the first question is, “What’s your name?” As an adult, it quickly becomes, “So, what do you do?” While career is certainly important, it can be disheartening to feel like your worth gets reduced to a job title, especially if you’re longing for greater change or feel stuck in an unfulfilling role.

8. You become less tolerant of B.S.

Small talk about the weather, gossip, or manufactured drama suddenly lose their appeal. You crave real connection, meaningful conversations, and aren’t afraid to cut people out of your life who consistently bring negativity or shallowness. This can be a positive change, but also sometimes leave you feeling a tad out of sync with some social circles.

9. Some friendships simply fade out, and that’s okay.

Lifestyles change, people relocate, and priorities shift. It’s a natural part of life that some friendships won’t last the distance, even without major conflict. While it’s a bit sad, accepting this as normal allows space for new, deeper connections to form with people who align with your current life stage.

10. It’s increasingly unlikely you’ll become a TikTok star, rock legend, or Olympic athlete.

It’s good to have aspirations, but past a certain point, it’s wise to reevaluate those childhood dreams that likely won’t pan out. Accepting this isn’t giving up; it’s about finding fulfillment in new avenues – whether it’s mastering tennis at the local court or fronting a band that plays weekend gigs for the sheer fun of it.

11. You’ll never know everything, and the older you get, the more you realize how little you know.

There’s a certain confidence that comes with youth, a feeling of having it all figured out. Wisdom born from experience reveals just how vast knowledge truly is, and how much there still is to explore. Paradoxically, the older and hopefully wiser you become, the more comfortable you get with saying, “I don’t know.”

12. Regret over the paths not taken can sting.

It’s human to occasionally look back and wonder, “What if?” The choices we didn’t make, the relationships we didn’t pursue, and the risks we never took linger in our minds. While regret can be a motivator for change in the present, it’s important to practice compassion for your younger self who made those decisions based on the knowledge you had at the time.

13. You can’t always protect everyone you love from pain.

This is perhaps one of the hardest pills to swallow, especially as a parent. Wanting to shield those we love from suffering is natural. However, experience teaches us that pain is an inevitable part of the human experience, and ultimately, the best we can do is offer unwavering support through the tough times, without attempting to take away their struggles.